# New kids on the block

> We interviewed 4 Uniting Church ‘newbies’ to find out why people choose to join the Uniting Church and what their experience was like.

By Jonathan Foye · 10 February 2011 · Features

Canonical: https://insights1.uca.org.au/articles/new-kids-on-the-block/

To get an inside view of why people choose to join the Uniting Church ¾ and what their experience is like ¾ *Insights* interviewed a small group of people who still were relatively new. The four “newbies” have spent between six months and three years with the Uniting Church, through local congregations and small groups.

*Welcome one another, therefore, as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.*
 Romans 5:7

The National Church Life Survey (NCLS) is a census conducted every five years to study the vitality of Australia’s churches. The Synod of New South Wales and the ACT Board of Mission is a major supporter.

One of the nine core qualities identified by NCLS Research is Nine Core Qualities is intentional and welcoming inclusion.

The 2006 survey found inclusion to be one of the Uniting Church’s strengths, with some 85 per cent of new arrivals in the previous five years agreeing they had found it easy to make friends.

All the newcomers interviewed by *Insights* said that they had felt welcomed by their new church or small group and that this was central to their decision to get involved.

Julie McCrossin is a comedienne and former ABC broadcaster, perhaps best known for her work on *Good News Week*.

Along with her partner Melissa, she has been a part of South Sydney Uniting Church for “about six months”.

Ms McCrossin first visited to see a friend who is currently battling cancer.
 “We instinctively felt the best way to do that was to go to her church and show our regard for something that we knew was very dear to her heart,” she said.
 Ms McCrossin said she found South Sydney congregation to be welcoming from the start.

“We were made to feel welcome by the genuine warmth of the greeting we received the first time we came. We were welcomed by name as part of the service,” she said.

Ms McCrossin suggested that welcome was part of South Sydney congregation’s broad, inclusive ethos: “Melissa and I are truly welcome as a lesbian couple. It is an inclusive and loving community that welcomes all sorts of people from all sorts of cultural, educational and socioeconomic backgrounds. It is a place where ‘love thy neighbour’ is put into practice.”

She said, “If the welcome mat had not been put out by the Uniting Church, I would still be relying on the ABC Religion Department, via radio and television, and my old Anglican school for contact with a community of people who care about faith.”

Marley Cook is a freelance journalist and researcher. As well as attending St Mary’s Anglican Church in western Sydney, she is involved in Blaxland Uniting Church’s young adult Bible study group.

Having grown up in a family that was “spiritual … as opposed to … faithful” Ms Cook confessed to having developed “the Ned Flanders stereotype of those who went to church”.

She said, however, that the Uniting Church accepted her “with no qualms”. This inclusion was extended to her during times when she had hard questions;
 “At times on my [faith] journey I’ve had questions, which probably have been so radical most people would have looked at me with a meek smile and whispered ‘She’s a bit of a freak’ but my [Bible study group] has embraced this and they’ve never once asked me to stop being such an inquisitive nerd,” she said.

“I think they see it as a chance to … spread Christ’s word.”

Sarah Willett is a primary school teacher who has been attending Blaxland Uniting Church since 2008. She said that the congregation at Blaxland proved to be welcoming through a variety of ways. “I have felt very welcomed both by the minister and the laypeople,” she said.

“The minister, Alimoni Taumoepeau, made a point of visiting many people when he first arrived at our church, which made me feel a worthwhile part of the congregation.”

Like Ms Cook, Ms Willett also believes that the Uniting Church actively encourages members to think deeply about their faith.

“I think that, above all, I appreciate the questions that are not just allowed to be asked but are actually encouraged to be explored, to question assumptions that may be intrusive to the core message of the gospel,” she said.

A clear and owned church vision is another aspect of church life that NCLS Research says is important. The Uniting Church did well in this category in the 2006 NCLS results.

The percentage of attendees who were aware of the vision, goals or direction of their local church increased from 59 per cent in 2001 to 70 per cent in 2006.

The ‘newbies’ interviewed told *Insights* that the Uniting Church’s vision was something that they identified with and that was influential in their attendance.
 Ms Cook said that the Uniting Church’s concern for social justice was something that resonated with her. “The Uniting Church has such a strong commitment to social justice that I find absolutely liberating and inspiring and the people really believe in what they are advocating.”

She said, “The (church’s) policies … towards Indigenous people and asylum seekers echo my thoughts so much it’s quite scary.”

**An active community**
 All of the “newbies” interviewed also said that they found their congregation or small group to be a vibrant community ¾ and that this played a part in their decision to get involved.

Tamsin Paige is a law student who worships at Ultimo University Church. Ms Paige said that she was invited “to be a part of community and not just to attend Sunday services; this invitation into community was crucial to my feeling welcomed.”

Ms McCrossin said that South Sydney congregation’s community focus ¾ such as its community garden, parish-based newspaper the *South Sydney Herald* and accommodation for homeless people ¾ was significant to her decision to attend.

“The wide range of activities associated with the church also means that there are many ways to help and feel needed,” she said. “Many people distribute the newspapers, for example, and this is genuinely valued. There are many ways to feel part of the community at the church.”

**Stumbling blocks**
 Making the transition into a new church is, in many ways, challenging. Among other things, the move can involve adapting to church traditions and theology sometimes alien to what one is used to.

Ms Willett said that making a denominational shift to the Uniting Church was sometimes challenging, as she had been exposed to different theology and tradition to what she was previously accustomed to:

“Having grown up in a different church there were a few different traditions to get used to,” she said.

“I felt nervous about that, about doing the wrong thing at the wrong time, but people have always been considerate about telling me what is going on and not expecting much of me.

“The theology is very different to anything I have been used to and so some ideas I’ve never thought to question before can be unsettling. But that also serves to strengthen my faith over time so it’s a bit of a double-edged sword.”

Ms Willett said, “The Uniting Church is an intelligent denomination; meaning that there is a lot of thought that goes into theology, which can be difficult to keep up with.

“It can feel intimidating to meet so many clever people! At the same I have always found these people to be gracious.”

Ms Cook says she has also experienced this in her Bible study: “It’s just trying to absorb as much knowledge in a short period of time but it’s a positive challenge.”
 While the Uniting Church has been identified by the NCLS as a welcoming denomination, adapting to a new group of people can still sometimes be daunting.

Ms Willett told *Insights* that this had been challenging at points.
 “I think there’s a danger in forming cliques in any church, when people become comfortable with each other … I think it can become disruptive when people no longer feel the need to welcome others or even feel threatened by new people,” she said.

“I have experienced this to a small degree in some parts of the [Uniting Church], but it’s been rare.

“In the times I have experienced it, it has been subtle and difficult to pinpoint but it felt that people’s friendships had already formed and that I was going to have a difficult time of breaking in.”

In order to guard against such a problem occurring, Ms Willett recommended that churches extend their welcome to newcomers beyond the four walls of the church.

“I think perhaps having more focus on getting to know new people through inviting them to your home is particularly welcoming, as it says, ‘I want to be friends with you; not just at church.’”

**Send us your own newbie experience stories**

*Insights* is interested in hearing from any readers who have themselves recently joined the Uniting Church. Email us through[insights@nsw.uca.org.au](mailto:insights@nsw.uca.org.au) or write to us via **PO Box A2178, Sydney South 1235. We will share some of the stories in a future letters page.**

**Jonathan Foye is a freelance journalist and Uniting Church Chaplaincy Associate at UWS.**